How are you doing? "I am fine". Really?

“How are you doing?”

This question tops the list of most frequently asked questions!

Just like many of us, I often find myself answering with a ‘I am fine’, Whether or not I am really fine. Is there a way I could determine whether I am fine or not? Yes there is.

One of the ways we could interpret that question is "Are you fleeling fulfilled and happy?” Most often our fulfillment and happiness come from meeting some of our deeply desired innate needs.

When our needs are met, then we know that we are doing just fine. Those needs are very BASIC (Basis, Affection, Significance, Inclusion, and Control) that all of us are rightfully entitled to be fulfilled. They are briefly described as follows:

Now tell me, "How are you doing?" How many of those above things are fulfilled for you? Every time someone asks you that frequent, pertinent question, you now know what you must be thinking about: Your BASIC needs.

Here's wishing you all well.

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